Agree or Disagree?

January 18, 2014

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I have been receiving quite a few letters wondering why I have not written my “Agree or Disagree?” posts lately. I thought I would explain to everyone why I decided not to write anymore.

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I had originally thought I would post pictures and point out items that could be used as a teaching technique. I did not know any of the owner’s of the photos, I just choose the photos randomly.

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Well, I received a letter written by a reader that stated that more or less that I was not being kind and was sounding like a bully. That comment really bothered me. I know it probably should not, but it does.

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Then I started second guessing what I was writing and worried that I was offending someone. So I decided to stop writing “Agree or Disagree’ all together. And that is my story. I apologize if I have upset anyone, that certainly was not my intention.

Agree or Disagree?

10 comments

  1. Isn’t it amazing (not in a good way) how the opinions of people we don’t even know can make us feel? AGREE OR DISAGREE was an interesting series. Your blog is one I love to read!

  2. That’s a shame, Kelly. There are always going to be haters out there! I have never thought your posts were anything but helpful and gracious. And always helpful when you are pointing out positive change in a space! Perhaps if you solicited and used photos from readers that requested your help, then the general public would understand that you are giving your expert advice-for free, no less!

  3. I thought it was a great idea for an ongoing column topic. Maybe some people were offended because some of the points you raised struck a little too close to home(?) I can understand that…but still, you were never directly pointing fingers at anyone you knew. Sometimes the best learned lessons are the hardest to hear/see. I felt you were using a great teaching tool. I’ll miss “agree or disagree”.

  4. Hi Kelly. All I can say is, you are being true to yourself if you do what feels right in your heart. I have no doubt that you will find another way I post questions that will engage your readers. We’re still here reading and enjoying!

    Glad things are working out with the new condo!

  5. Hi Kelly,
    I want you to know I appreciated your decorating advice.I can tell design & decorating is a passion for you & we are all fortunate to be able to learn everything you have to offer! I look forward to your next helpful blog!
    Keep up the good work & enjoy this wonderful day!!

  6. Kelly, I have had the pleasure of working with you and know you are not a bully….. Anything but! I always appreciated your honest opinion that you gave to the questions I asked. That is why I hired you, for your point of view. I enjoy your posts and always learn from them!

  7. People have a right to decorate anyway they want. If they like their pictures two inches from the ceiling, well, that’s their choice. Never mind that it looks silly to others. Same with your blog. It’s about expressing your opinion on decorating and what you think looks good. I don’t think you should let a few comments from the naysayers of the world dictate how you write when everyone else is reading your blog to get ideas and your opinions on what looks good, etc. I look forward to getting your blog and if I agree or disagree, that’s life. We all have different viewpoints. Just my two cents worth. Continue to write your blog. People who critize harshly have the right to NOT read it and move on. I continue to look forward to your work.

  8. Don’t worry about the nay sayers. There will always be a few. If you liked it and your readers liked it then you just go ahead.

    I would agree with another statement that said to only comment on pictures that have been submitted to you. If they don’t want an honest opinion then they shouldn’t ask. I like your page and I’m 68 yrs. old.

  9. Bring back “Agree or
    Disagree”–after all, that is the whole point isn’t it?—You have the right to disagree!! I know that it is in your heart to HELP people and had no intent whatsoever to bully anyone. I think that those readers who were offended were stuck in the world of wallpaper borders and stuffed animals as being great interior design.

  10. Kelly, you meant it to be a teaching tool and it’s a good one. Don’t “throw out the baby with the bath water” just because someone took offense. Maybe review past columns, maybe revise and refine a little, maybe be more selective in your choice of pictures to illustrate, but don’t dump the entire project. I remember the second picture above from your post on trim and it was a perfect one to stimulate discussion and thought. Use “Agree or Disagree” when it feels right but also remember it isn’t the only way to teach (Your post on “best Wall Color for Oak Cabinets” was a tremendous lesson for me and a favorite go-to column.) Keep your goals in mind and stick with them!

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